Freedom of choice for marriage Vs. Arranged marriage

Yeah, today i’ll be talking about the possibility of success between arranged marriages and those made by freedom of choice from my point of view. My point of this entry is to raise discussion about this topic which i myself sometimes think about, so lets further explore.

Arranged marriages have been a topic of interest for centuries. We strive on the element of  chosen love, “danger” and the forbidden, while an arranged marriage is usually a safe way to ensure a family’s approval of a union. After asking friends, family or just individuals in todays fast paced world, most people think prearranged marriages is a ridiculous thing to do because of the lack of choice of someone’s own life partner. I’m not going to bring in statistics into this entry, lets talk about the idea of these two supposedly “juxtaposing” situations.

Basically this is how i feel, people sometimes look at prearranged marriage like its such a “crazy” thing to do. “WHY GET MARRIED TO SOMEONE YOU DONT LOVE, SOMEONE NOT OF YOUR CHOICE”. Well apart from those from strict families and cities where prearranged marriage goes to the extent of not seeing your fiance/fiancee  until the wedding day itself, prearranged marriage if you think about it isn’t only what it seems to be.

Nowadays you find more and more people getting married for reasons that shouldn’t be, instead of love we’ve witnessed how money, status, convenience have been primary motivators and factors for the union between two people. How much more different is that from a prearranged marriage? True, you don’t get first choice. But individuals from cultures that have this inculcated into tradition, most of the time have the choice to reject suggestions made by their parents, be it at sight or  after a few outings with this supposed “chosen” woman. 

Marriage is a choice, about commitment and sacrifice. 

Some questions and answers from a few people i asked.

What are your thoughts about this issue? Do you think its “wrong” or “impractical”?

Why would i want to go through with something like that where i have no say?

me : You do have a say, the only difference is that your given suggestions.

How would i be able to go through something like this and sustain the relationship?

Same way you would a normal marriage, it’s a choice not something forced on.

There is no way a prearranged marriage would last!

Not true, statistics have shown prearranged marriage being more successful than non arranged marriages. 

Just something to ponder about i guess ? Lets.